Are You Begging For Clout or Are You a Clout Handler?

Life Lessons

2018 has arrived and now it is time for the first lesson! Since we are in a New Year things are beginning to reset and things are beginning to be given such as clout….but first let me ask you some questions:


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Are you the person who gets invited out everywhere no matter the time or day? Are you the one people try to plan around? Are you the one where folks always come for advice? Are you the person who at times is the center of attention or folks just wanna see you just to see you? I could ask questions all day but if you answered yes to any of these questions you ma’am or sir hold some clout! Congratulations!

Are you the person who tries to post things on Instagram that you know will gain attention even though no one cares? Are you the one person who tries their hardest to outshine others for no reason? Are you the one begging to be the center of attention even though there isn’t time for it or no is checking for you? Are you just always being extra and acting as if you do so much when you do……nothing at all? Once again I could ask you questions like this all day but if you answered yes to any of these questions you ma’am or sir you are begging for clout and you need to STOP!

If you do not know what clout means let me give you the Urban Dictionary definition along with the Dictionary definition:

Urban Dictionary: Clout is being famous and having influence.

Dictionary: Informal. pull; strong influence; muscle, especially political power


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With those definitions you now understand right? Clout is a social thing it is almost how everyone perceives you and how influential you are. Here’s an example, Oprah has major clout if she says jump the world around her will ask, “how high?”. But why? In simple terms, she is Oprah and Oprah has put in major work to get to that point. Plus the world perceives her in a very positive way! So why not do something for a kind person who just might pay you a bunch of money and give you some amazing advice? God knows I would.

Now, what if she was a very negative, hateful, and a sneaky woman? You probably wouldn’t do anything for her right? Right. Having clout is a social thing that only you can control! If you live your life and strive for greatness and do right by the ones that do right by you clout is going to follow you and grow for you. The ones that try to grab clout off of things such as being the loudest person in the room or the one with “nicest” clothing have zero clout in real life so they want you to give it to them by visual aesthetics. Not by who they truly are which probably isn’t the best person and those are clout beggers.

For myself, I have been told that I hold clout because I can answer yes to every single one of those questions…the first set of questions that is. Now, I am not trying to brag so do not take it as such but the reason that I hold it is that I have always been myself, positive, and lived what in my mind is my best life even though I have my ups and downs. Folks take note of it and want to know what I do, how I did it, and what is next. POSITIVE VIBES BRING POSITIVE VIBES AND THOSE VIBES BRING MAJOR CLOUT!!! So live on folks and live your best life



A Planned Life (Let’s Plan Accordignly)

Life Lessons

You may feel as though the day gets away from you and you aren’t accomplishing anything which is…..OK! Many people do but are you truly planning for your life or just planning for the day? Here is what I mean:

  • Planning for the day: Going to work and going out with not much thought of what you are going to do in the future in the terms of career, life, or anything that will bring you to that next level of life. If it is finically or just overall happiness.
  • Planning for Life: Living your daily life with goals that you are trying to reach that will bring you to that next level. You’re writing them down in places to remind you daily. You are setting up things that will benefit you in the long term! 


Currently, this may be you!

Simple right? Right. You are probably asking, “Travis, how do I plan accordingly?” In the simplest way…SET YOURSELF UP FOR THE FUTURE!! Invest in something that will pay you back in the long run. Get that extra bit of education to get that promotion at your job. Start that small business that you’ve wanted to start. Just start planning for the bigger picture of life! If you have your own business already start doing everything and anything that deals with that business….dive into it. Don’t do what you believe you can and stick to that ground level. I am tired of hearing and seeing people who aren’t planning accordingly and are at a constant stand still with life. Never get comfortable!

Yes, enjoy the moment but when it is all said and done plan for the next step. Here is an example that is personal to me on both ends:

  • Me planning for the day: Before graduating from high school I did not know what I was going to do for college! All of my friends knew but me….I applied for one school and that was my dream school. I applied and the day decision was given out I was…..denied. I was being lazy and counter productive that I did not know what to do so I planned for that day, not for my life. But thank God my parents were planning for my life now I am at a school that I love and would have wished I considered a long time ago!
  • Me planning for life: Going into my senior year of college I already know what graduate school I want to attend and working to make sure that I am undeniable. I know the budget I want to be on for my first apartment! I know where I want my brand (#TravisSpeaks & 3>2.96) to be out in the future. Lowkey, I know where I want my Ph.D. and figuring out the requirements for that. I know where I want to be at organizational (ΑΚΨ & ΩΨΦ) wise when it comes to holding a national position within the organizations! But like always my parents are still helping me plan.


Prepare yourself to have one of these moments.

Take your time and sit down with yourself and say to yourself, “What is next for me?” Let the thoughts flow and write them down. Figure out your goals and begin to PLAN the steps it takes to get to that goal. It could all be so simple! If you need some help ask someone who you think that knows best or….ASK ME!!! Email me at or DM on IG @_thet_! I will be happy to help. It is always the season for improvements! So start improving but stay patient. It takes time to get into the new groove of improvement. God knows it was hard for me at some points because you either feel defeated or still nothing is happening. Like I said before what you are doing is not for the moment it is for the long run. Like a savings account for life, it is not needed at that moment but you will need it in the future! 



Ain’t Nothing Wrong With Sitting Alone (Guide For a Solo Day)

Life Lessons

Quick Scenario: You planned a day with your friends that you haven’t seen in a while! Cool right? Right. You put on your outfit, look at the menu of the restaurant, and do all the prep work to get ready for this iconic social day! Until….the dreaded text messages roll in of the cancellations from your friends:

Friend 1: Got a little busy can we shoot for next week?

Friend 2:  Just paid some bills I don’t have the funds. 

Friend 3: I need to go dry clean my socks catch yall another time. (The weird friend) 

SO WHAT DO YOU DO?!?! Go ahead and go with the plans and go alone or stay at home?

Well, I am going to tell you what you are going to do! GO OUT AND ENJOY THIS SELDOM ALONE TIME YOU HAVE!!! In my head, I have mastered the art of going out alone not in the sense of being “anti-social”. Just in the simple sense of I want to enjoy my day alone and be on my own time! A majority, of people, haven’t tried it and maybe you haven’t but there is nothing wrong with that because I am here to help you! So let’s gear up and grab our wallets to start our journey! 

So boom……you’re alone with the plans that were set and are already dressed so what is next? 

First, make sure you have prepped your daily life for this outing when it comes to gas in your car, money in your account, didn’t have to go to work, and all bills are paid. Nothing worst than going somewhere and you have absolutely no type of funds to do anything! Yes, it has happened to me before! Bonus tip: Set a budget for your outing no matter what you’re doing. If you’re just eating set a price for that ticket. If you are shopping set that amount you will not surpass. If you are going to a museum set how much you want to pay in there or go somewhere free!

Next, try to find a location that peaks your interest if not an area where there is a lot to do. For example, my favorite type of place or area would be anything dealing with either fashion or art with a nice food spot that is in walking distance. Where you go can be brand new to you or a somewhere you have already peeped and wanted to know more about or somewhere you know very well. Just make sure you’re in a safe place! 

Lastly, head out! Drive your well-prepared self to your place of interest! Once you get to that location sit down and relax and just think about life and enjoy the views and pictures that you are going to take! Let all positive vibes in and give them back! You’ll be at the height of your relaxation meter once you get out of the mindset that you need someone to sit across from you or walk with you.

Shop & Eat

Seems so simple right? It is. So hard to do though right? It is for the first time. Reason being you do not want anyone to label you as “funny acting” or “being too cute to hang with others” or your mind may be skewed to think that you always have to be with someone to have fun. How do I know this? I have friends who have thought like this along with myself for a short period of time but you do it once you almost can’t stop!

Next, you’ll see yourself spending 1 to 2 hours alone to spending an entire day alone and not walking back in the house until 12 AM of the next day. How does Travis know this? I have gone out at 9 AM ate breakfast and came back home at 12 AM with three to-go boxes and a small shopping bag (balling on a budget) with my calfs looking amazing! Going out alone does not make you weird not even a little bit!

So get up folks and enjoy a day without bae (if you have one), without friends, and without your pet (if you have one)! Life is too short for you to think that you have to depend on all of your fun time into an individual or group. Maybe you and I will cross alone day paths!

Just in case you need to see my face.